Facebook seems to snuff the old flames

I've read --and it makes sense-- that social networking sites are breeding grounds for infidelity. After years of resistance, I gave in a few months ago and have really gotten into Facebook. It's amazing stuff. I've (as goes the FB lingo) "reconnected" with scores of old friends, including, yes, some former girlfriends, most of whom are married with children, and none of whom --as far as I can tell...famous last words of naïveté!-- seem to be on the prowl.

With the exception of one serious, pivotal and in many ways wonderful relationship that lasted from a year before my mission to roughly a year after, my marital "what ifs" aren't backward-looking -- meaning, I haven't given much thought to "How would it have been if..." Instead, they're predominantly "How would it now be if..." So while there is an extramaritally-validating element to being back in touch with people, male and female alike, who knew me back when I was interesting and even cool, I don't find myself enticed, probably in large part because seeing these women now "breaks the seal" in my memory of them as nubile 17-to-25 year olds, reminding me of how unusually kind the years and motherhood have been to my beautiful wife.